I come from a big family of nine. My siblings and I were raised by my father and mother who respectively are an ordinary employee and a housewife. But in year 1987, one of my elder brothers passed away at the age of three (3) months old due to Congenital Heart Disease. Supposedly, he’s the second child of my parents. The loss and grief felt by my parents in their early marriage led them to a moment of conversion which prepared and equipped them for the greater things ahead. In the year 1991, three years after my brother passed away, my parents had a unique encounter God. We had no idea that their calling and response would later bring our whole family closer to Jesus and Mary.
Growing up and being raised in a Catholic family was challenging for me. I did not understand why we needed to attend mass together and go to confession, why we needed to pray before and after meals, why we needed to eat together as a family even without occasion, why we needed to pray the rosary every day, why my parents needed to leave home sometimes just to attend a household or assembly. Many times, I thought that my life looked different from others. I always felt that I did not belong and accepted by other people. I was laughed at because I grew up wearing accessories and shirts with images of saints and bible verses. Some people questioned me about my Catholic faith and tradition. Throughout my journey, I witnessed and deeply understood how the Lord worked in every member of our family to become the persons that we are right now. My faith has become deeper and stronger. I found my purpose and I was reminded to be humble at all times. I learned to surrender everything to the Lord.
The Lord became the strong foundation of our family. Serving Him has become our bonding, praying together has become our habit, attending mass and having confession sustains our spiritual journey despite trials, difficulties and problems. These things makes us stronger as a family. I have always wished that my elder brother who has gone before us, my Kuya Julius was still with us experiencing the faithfulness of the Lord in our family.
These experiences made me realize that while you’re still on earth, do not look for perfect parents. Do not look for perfect children. Do not look for a perfect sibling. Do not look for a perfect family. Because no matter what we do, we will not find a perfect person. Every family member has shortcomings and flaws but let’s just give each other the unconditional love, understanding and appreciation. Let us allow our own families to become channels of God’s grace and love so that we can continue to give grace to our neighbors as much as we can.